Why do black girls love to argue? I can write positive blog posts all day but put up a disagreement and I'll get 100 comments.
It can be about who is the best singer, actor, actress, hair stylist, preacher, dresser, looking. It does not matter.
Is it that our stress levels are so high with work, family, the economy that we can't wait to snap our necks and tell somebody what is really on our minds?
On Wendy Williams first week before her syndication, she made news not for her awesome groundbreaking content but for a low down dirty war of words with Omarosa.
God forbid we are cast on a reality show. The black girls always end up getting camera time for "going off" on someone. I know I am being stereotypical but is there truth to this? Is it that hard for black girls to just turn the other cheek?
I am not sure. I'm just the messenger.
I love the fact that your posts are inquisitive, direct, and to the point. (I'm working on getting mind there, but sometimes I just have a LOT to say!) lol. But I am finding this to be true as well (and I don't even know if I'd generalize to say "black women". I think this is a problem with a lot of people in the world of blogging. I just started my website, and I have been trying to build comments. It seems extremely hard to do so, if your post is not controversial and/or argumentative. Even then, people still don't comment!
Idk if that answered your question, but personally, I just sometimes have a lot to get off my chest. Sometimes we want to vent at somebody - ANYBODY! - after a long day's work, filled with condescending men and/or superiors, or a nagging babydaddy (lol - and yes, men nag too!), or a nosey mom who won't leave well enough alone but claims to be looking out for your "best interest". Long story short, sometimes we just need to make contact, and find ways to channel our frustrations. Sometimes, unfortunately, it's directed toward other people.
Posted by: The Sphinx | 07/21/2009 at 09:10 PM
Thanks The Sphinx,
You are always welcomed here or at my other blog:
http://talulazoeapple.com
to rant or vent. I promise to update this one more.
Posted by: talulazoeapple | 07/21/2009 at 10:24 PM
i remember that wendy williams show.
i'm not one to argue. i can debate a topic and i don't mind discussions. there's a way to have talk to people and screaming and arguing accomplishes nothing.
Posted by: Natural | 07/31/2009 at 03:55 PM
Thanks for visiting, Natural. When people get angry, nothing really gets solved. It's a waste of energy.
Posted by: talulazoeapple | 07/31/2009 at 05:24 PM
I don't like arguing (Im more likely to say what I have to say and be done with it), but I wonder this, too. Getting someone told is the highlight of the day!
I think some of us spend a lot of time checking ourselves, trying to make sure that we don't become that finger snappin neck rollin black chick, that we just explode on the next person to get on the bad side.
Posted by: Jaye | 10/01/2009 at 10:01 PM
I've experienced more sassiness from black women more than any other women. However,I have had mature disagreements with black women. And I as a black woman try hard to debate people in a respectful way. So, I do think that black women have a problem with being obnoxious, however, there are some of us that try to act like ladies and not fools.
Posted by: Raven | 10/26/2009 at 04:54 PM
Thanks for the excellent review!
Posted by: Shannon | 08/12/2010 at 07:21 PM